Me & Betsy, and the Blizzard of ‘77

 

 

 

Once again I have a story that fits writing prompts for Slice of Life Sunday, Writer’s Island, and Sunday Scribblings. One of the prompts at Slice of Life Sunday is “Winter Wonderland,” with Writer’s Island featuring “Memories” and Sunday Scribblings offering “A Winter’s Tale.” I hope you will agree, my story just begged to be told with all of these prompts!sunday2

Me and Betsy, and the Blizzard of ‘77

 

It has been an unusual Thanksgiving week. Most years we all start singing “I’m Dreaming of a White Christmas” about this time, but for the first time in more than thirty years, we actually had a white Thanksgiving. Granted the covering was not enough to build a snowman, but it was snow nevertheless. My grandchildren were very excited to have snow so early this year. My eighty-two year old father enjoyed sharing memories of Thanksgivings from his youth with his great-grandchildren when “at least a foot of snow” was normal for mid-November and more than eighteen inches covered the ground all winter long.  I too remember as a child having a lot of snow. Like most children, I think I enjoyed the cold, white stuff when I was young. But a time came when the joys of winter turned into a nightmare.

The winter of 1977 was the first of three winters in a row which featured above average snow fall in Ohio. January of 1977 was the coldest month in Ohio history with temperatures being 17° below normal. I picked the coldest winter ever to go into business, as I had purchased an H & R Block franchise in Mt. Vernon just after Thanksgiving. Operating the business required a ninety mile round trip drive each day, six days a week. Of course I was not lucky enough for the trip to be interstate miles, but instead, a scenic state route of many hills and many more curves. In the spring, summer, and fall months of the year, it truly was a scenic route of small towns, farmlands and woods. But in the winter, the drive became the road to hell.

Fortunately, I had a 1968 Pontiac Catalina which I nicknamed “Betsy.”  I know car buffs would understand what I mean about “fortunately.” Pontiac Catalinas are tough cars to begin with, but the 68’s had a 400, 2bbl, V-8 engine which made it the toughest of tough. That car would eat up any highway, with or without snow. And it could corner well for being a larger car. It was the perfect car for the road to hell because it always got me home – well almost always.

The National Weather Service issued a blizzard warning for all of Ohio on Friday, January 28, 1977. I left for Mt. Vernon at my usual time of 6am and heard the announcement on the car radio. The announcer predicted the current temperature of 20° would drop to 10° below zero by noon.  I laughed and patted Betsy on the dash. It had been a very cold winter and many people had trouble getting their cars started. But not old Betsy. She started at the turn of the key. The announcer went on to say high winds of 35 – 45 mph would accompany more than 15 inches of new snow, with some winds gusting to above 60 mph, creating huge drifts and reducing visibility to less than 100 feet. Again, I felt smug knowing I had Betsy, the monster machine. Actually my smugness was due more to my ignorance about blizzards than it was to my knowledge about cars. But, I was about to receive a fast education.

I arrived at work thirty minutes later than usual due to the increasing bad weather the further I drove. My employees were not there, which surprised me. I opened the office and checked the appointment book. The phone rang and the first of four employees called off. Within a half an hour, everyone had called off and I was left to hold down the fort. This proved to be an easy task as no clients ventured out into the blizzard either. I spent the morning getting caught up with checking income tax forms and running copies. At 11:30, I called a local pizza shop to order lunch but received no answer. I tried calling another restaurant I knew delivered, but again no answer. I turned on the radio and learned all businesses were ordered to close due to the wicked weather. I was debating on whether to close up or to wait a few more hours when my husband called. He said I should plan on staying in a motel as the television news reported most roads were impassable. I said I would close up and then check the road conditions to decide whether to stay in town or drive home.

“There’s no deciding to it!” he shouted into the phone. “Just get your ass to the hotel across the street and stay there!” he commanded and hung up the phone.

Now come on, who did he think he was yelling at? A child. I was a woman who was smart enough to own my own business, therefore making me smart enough to decide whether the roads were too bad to make the 45 mile trip home. Of course my decision had nothing to do with intelligence, but everything to do with being a stubborn Virgo. If someone told me I could not do something, I did it just to show them I could. Come hell or high water, or through a blizzard on the road to hell, I was driving home.

I finished the paperwork I was working on and called all of my employees to tell them the office would be closed the next day.  I closed up and went out to join Betsy in the drive of our lifetime. True to her past history, Betsy started at the turn of the key despite the flashing -8° on the sign of the bank next door. I had to go back into the office to get a broom to sweep off what I estimated to be over a foot of snow covering her. By the time I had her all cleaned off, or almost cleaned off as the snow kept falling, Betsy was all warmed up.  At 1:45pm, in the middle of the ‘77 blizzard we started our journey home.

To say the drive was a nightmare is an understatement. Visibility forecasts of 100 feet were an overstatement. Wind gusts of over 60 mph became the norm and Betsy shuddered in their path. We drove through an average of 10 inches of snow on the road, with many times plowing through snow drifts higher than her hood. Up and down the hills we went, many times going down sideways and sometimes going up the same way. Our only saving grace was no other idiots were on the road. A normal fifty minute drive home turned into more than three hours, and, I did not make it all the way home.

We lived “way out in the sticks” as my mother referred to the location of our home. I was less than three miles away from a hot meal and an “oh yeah, don’t tell me what I can or can not do” when catastrophe struck. Actually, it was Betsy doing the striking. We were on the final straight stretch, plowing through snow drift after snow drift, each higher than the one before, all being higher than her hood, when suddenly we plowed into a snow drift that did not break away. BAM! We stopped dead. The impact threw me over the steering wheel and I cracked my forehead on the windshield. I sat dazed for a few minutes, staring at a sea of white. Everywhere I looked, there was snow. Betsy and I were lodged in a ten-foot bank of snow.

I knew enough to realize I had to shut off the engine immediately. Within minutes I was freezing but at least I wouldn’t die from carbon monoxide fumes. I knew I could not stay in the car. If I allowed myself to get much colder I would go to sleep and then I would die. I had to get to heat, even if it meant struggling through the blizzard without Betsy’s power under me.  I gathered my thoughts and realized I was probably less than a half a mile from the Hanna farm. I could walk that far, I told myself. Yeah, on a summer day wearing a good pair of tennis shoes, it would have been a piece of cake. But this was not summer. It was -10° or lower, without the wind chill of over 60mph winds, more than two feet of snow on the road and I had on fancy, unlined snow boots with three inch heels. My coat was warm but it only came to the top of my thighs, allowing the wind to blow my knee-length dress well above the top of my thighs and leaving my legs protected from the frigid air by only a pair of pantyhose and a silk slip. Dear Lord, could it get any worse than this?

The answer was yes it could. Before I could embark on my presumed short jaunt to the Hanna farm, I had to get out of the car. This proved to be a little difficult as the snow was packed solid around Betsy. I pushed and pushed on the car door, slowly inching it open. I finally got it open enough to squeeze my way out and fought my way out of the snow bank. Once I was out, I realized I forgot to put on my hat and gloves. But there was no going back into the snow bank and trying to find the car door. I had to go on and I started walking. I prayed I was correct about the distance, which I was. Unfortunately, in my fight to get out of the snow bank I lost my sense of direction and started trudging my way through the snow in the opposite direction, away from the Hanna farm.

I have heard the saying “God protects drunks and fools,” and after that night I know one part of that adage is correct. I have done some pretty dumb things in my life, but my decision to drive home in a blizzard ranks number one. It was God’s will that I survived the one mile journey to the Zickefoose farm. I know it was His strength in my nearly frozen hands that dug the snow away from the iron gate to get to the sidewalk, actually snowwalk, leading to their front porch. I know it was His strength because I had none. Once I finally made it their front porch, I collapsed. I could go no further. It was only by God’s grace that the Zickefoose’s dog knew someone was outside. He barked and barked, and continued to bark  until Mr. Zickefoose finally opened the front door and saw me lying on his porch, partially covered by a blanket of snow.

The blizzard of ‘77 lasted two days all across the state of Ohio. Every business was closed, with employees of hospitals and nursing homes scheduled that Friday morning working through the weekend. Twenty people died during the blizzard. Newspapers and television news programs would report numerous acts of heroism by the Ohio National Guard, police and fire crews, and many ordinary citizens who saved dozens of lives. What was not reported was one dog that saved the life of this fool.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

From Our Table to Yours


Wishing you a family-filled Thanksgiving

Metamorphosis

Selma has given us another challenging prompt this week at Search Engine Stories. I am beginning to enjoy writing in the world fiction. I hope you enjoy reading my fiction! LOL Here is my response to ”Sky Full of Butterflies”. 

 

Metamorphosis

 

Mae fidgeted with the dominoes on the game table as she watched the spring rain through the beveled window of the living room. She hated this part the most, the waiting for the arrival. How many times over the years had she sat here? Far too many, she thought. How ironic it was that the one thing that gave her the most joy came at the price of causing the most pain for someone else, always someone so defenseless. She thought back on all of the arrivals and was amazed at how many occurred during the worst weather days; from falling snow to blizzards, spring rains to thunderstorms, and even once during a tornado.

 Bad weather always seemed fitting somehow. The worst cases always arrived during the worst weather. It was a sign she came to heed.  After the call came, she would make a pot of tea and retreat to the living room to watch the weather and prepare herself for what was to come. She knew what to expect. She would arrive beaten and broken. Mae knew what her state of mind would be: confused, angry, heartsick, and embarrassed. She knew all too well because she had been there once herself, so very, very long ago.

Being a battered wife is a shameful thing. You are ashamed of not being worthy of being loved by the one you loved. You are ashamed of hiding blackened eyes behind sunglasses on a cloudy day. You are ashamed of wearing long sleeved blouses during the hottest days of the summer.  You are ashamed of making up yet another story of how you fell down the staircase. Most of all, you are ashamed you stay. But you do. You gather your hurts and lost pride and hide in a cocoon until the day finally arrives when he goes too far, hits too much. Your shame prevents you from realizing the opportunity that lies ahead.

Yes, Mae thought, that is what I provide; an opportunity to help others shed their cocoon of abuse. For twenty-six years she opened her home and her heart to those who were where she had once been.  But she had learned to fly and she would help yet another woman grow her wings. She watched as the car pulled into the driveway. The rain was still falling. That’s alright, she thought. It may be a week, or a month, or maybe more, but the pain would subside and the cocoon would be broken. Yes, there would be one more, one more in her sky full of butterflies.

100 Words or Less Writing Contest

Believe it or not, but I actually entered this contest. I amazed myself at being able to tell an entire story using only 100 words. I want to pass the word along to any who would like to participate. Deadline is December 30th. For all the info, click on http://100wordsorfewerwritingcontest.com/index.html

Golden Glove

Slice of Life Sunday is a meme dedicated to preserving the accounts of events cut out of the lives of average people just like you and me from all over the world. And like having ice cream with your pie, there is more to this meme than meets the eye – it’s a meme a` la mode. I hope you will join me and share a Slice of your Life. I have chosen one of this week’s prompts, “A Slate of Solace”, as my granchildren give me so much comfort. Also, Selma has the prompt, “Everybody Loves a Winner”, at Search Engine Stories, which is one of the focuses of my story this week.

 

Golden Glove

 

I truly loved and enjoyed raising my two children. I believe there is no greater honor or responsibility than being a parent.  Yes, there were times during those years when I wanted to pull my hair out, or theirs, but all in all I would have to say it was a pleasurable experience. I definitely went through the empty nest syndrome. My children were my life for 21 years. To find myself alone with no one to care for was a difficult adjustment. Then came grandchildren. I saw a sign the other day that made me smile: “Grandchildren are God’s reward for not killing your children.” I have been blessed with five, three boys and two girls, ranging in age from almost 16 to 7. All are very bright and quite athletic. Sometimes I think too athletic, too competitive in nature. But then, I am reminded by my son, that’s what it takes to be a winner of a college scholarship or a Golden Glove or the Heisman Trophy. I will have to admit how exhilarating it is to watch when one of my grandchildren excels during a game. It is times like those that make great scrapbook pages, grandma’s brag, and this post.

 

Caleb is my youngest grandchild and I must confess I do have a very special bond with him. My son and daughter-in-law invited me to be in the caleb-001delivery room when he was born. What an amazing experience! One would think being pregnant six times, I would have tired of the wonder of childbirth. Being on the other end, so to speak, is a completely different experience.  Although I have felt the pain of childbirth, watching a baby actually being born is nothing short of spectacular. I stood, watching in awe, as Caleb came into this world. After his birth, he was placed in his mother’s arms and my son cut the umbilical cord. The nurse whisked him away, with my son in tow, for his first bath and diaper. A few minutes later my son carried his son back into the room. I had to be patient as the parents shared in their joy of their new son. Finally my son asked if I wanted to hold him. Did I want to hold him? What a silly question. I cradled Caleb in my arms and marveled at how much he looked like his father, right down to one dimple on his right cheek and two on his left cheek. Just as I was caressing his soft face, he opened his eyes. I was the first person he saw, well at least as much as a newborn can see. That incredible moment has been my Achilles’ heel ever since. To this day, all Caleb has to do is look me straight in the eye and I melt; Grandma is putty in his hands. I have never known such solace than when Caleb gives me one of his beautiful smiles with a big hug.

 

Caleb was born into a family with a five year old brother and a ten year old sister, both who were extremely active in sports.  By age two, Caleb was trying hard to keep up. To this grandma’s dismay, the older siblings did not give Caleb a break because he was so much younger. He either had to play by the big boy rules or not play at all. I had to bite my tongue more times than I like to remember.  However, now at age seven, Caleb is one fine athlete. What I saw as bordering on cruelty made him tough and very astute.  He is a superb soccer player, an amazing shot on a basketball court, and a very controlled and deliberate quarterback. As well as he performs in each of these, his favorite sport is baseball. Due to his age, and much to his disconcert, he has only played on T-ball teams. But he has been permitted to serve as an extra on his older brother’s team during practice sessions.  Caleb’s knowledge of baseball is mindboggling. Something we learned last summer.

 

It began as a typical T-ball game. I always found it odd that though there was no pitcher, because the baseball is placed on a standing tee for the batter, a child is always placed in the pitcher’s position. My son is the coach of Caleb’s team and he is very conscientious about rotating positions so each player has an opportunity to learn the responsibilities of all positions. In the fifth inning, it was Caleb’s turn to be the pitcher. The fourth batter up hit a high fly ball between first and second base. The second baseman, whose job it was to catch balls in this area, was busy exchanging candy with the first baseman, like I said, a typical T-ball game. Caleb quickly sized up the situation, ran from the pitcher’s mound to catch the fly ball. Then he ran to first base and tagged the runner out who was trying to make it back to base once he realized Caleb caught the fly ball. Caleb then threw a straight, dead-eye throw to second base, where the short-stop was ready and waiting to catch the ball and tag the runner out trying to get back on that base. Yes, that’s right, a triple play! And as they say, the crowd went wild!!

 

Now, for any non-baseball fans, a triple play is a really, really big deal. The average number of triple plays in professional baseball for any given year is 2-3. The idea that a six year old would even understand the concept of what to do to achieve a triple play, let alone actually implementing the actions needed to accomplish such a feat is unheard of. Even the coach from the other team walked over to shake Caleb’s hand and give him a pat on the back. Of course he had to wait a few minutes as Caleb was busy.  As talented as Caleb is in any sport he plays, being humble is not in his vocabulary. He was busy jumping up and down, screaming at the top of his lungs, “I made a triple play! I made a triple play!”

 

But everyone in attendance, including this very proud grandma, forgave his arrogance. After all, he did indeed make a triple play and everybody loves a winner, especially if they are only six years old! Yes, I do believe there is a Golden Glove in Caleb’s future.

For the Love of God

 Selma has given us a very interesting prompt this week on her Search Engine Stories blog. She uses genuine search engine terms as writing prompts. The rules are simple. Write a fiction, non-fiction, or poetic piece based on the prompt. This week’s prompt is “Candle in the Mist”.  I knew the second I read the prompt the story I needed to write. Thank You Selma for reminding me of how great my grandma’s love was.

 

For the Love of God

I accepted the Lord as my Savior at my grandmother’s funeral. As I reflect on the timing, I can see where this was most appropriate as my grandmother had been my savior for all of my life. I spent much of my life as a child with grandma. She taught me right from wrong and gave me strength to if not overcome; at least endure the pain of living in a motherless home with my mother. Grandma had been the one I could always count on to listen to my troubles and give me advice and peace about decisions I had to make.  She rejoiced in my successes and shared in my sorrows. Grandma read her Bible daily and often shared the word of God with me. She talked of God having a plan for my life. As a child, I was confused as why a God who loved me would allow such horrible things to be done to me. Throughout my adulthood, I questioned what kind of plan a loving God would design that included such physical and emotional abuse. Out of respect for my grandma, I would always listen to what she had to say about her God and would keep my doubts of His existence to myself.

Grandma was very ill the last four months of her life. She was too weak to walk or even to eat. Mom insisted grandma go into the hospital for a series of tests, but grandma refused.  Mom finally got her way and grandma was admitted. The tests only revealed what grandma had said all along. “I am just old and my body is slowly shutting down.” During her four day stay, mom made a schedule so that at least one person would be at the hospital with grandma at all times. I was sitting with grandma one evening when my cousin Vernon arrived for his shift.  

“How’s she doing?” he asked. “Same as usual. She just sleeps. Once in awhile she will stir, but she never wakes up.” I replied.  Vernon said it was a nasty night. It had rained earlier and now a dense fog had settled in. I had been reading and had not noticed, but now I looked out the window and discovered I could not see anything through the fog. I was relieved I only lived a few blocks from the hospital. We visited for about an hour and then I said I had to go home as I had to go to work in a few hours.  Just I stood to leave, grandma began to mumble. Vernon and I watched as her mumbling became words. “Yes Lord, I am ready.” she clearly announced.

Vernon and I looked at each other. It had been weeks since she had spoken that many words at one time. Vernon suggested she must be hallucinating from the pain medication. “But she is not taking any pain medication. Those IV bags are just nutrients as she can not eat.” I replied. All of a sudden, grandma sat straight up in her bed, her eyes wide open and her arms reaching towards the window. “I am ready Lord.” she said again with a look of joyous anticipation on her face.

Vernon almost knocked his chair over as he jumped up. We both scurried to her bedside, afraid she would fall. “I understand Lord.” she said with sadness in her voice and lowered her arms as she continued to look towards the window. Vernon and I both followed her gaze and looked toward the window. We could see a small distant light through the mist of the fog. I looked back at grandma and saw a tear roll down her right cheek.  Vernon put his arm around her frail shoulders and guided her back down into the bed.  For only a moment, she looked first at Vernon and smiled, then looked at me and softly whispered, “I love you this much Cricket.”  She then went to sleep.

Vernon and I stood by her bedside just staring at each other. “What in the world? How could she set up like that?” he asked. “She didn’t even put her hands down to help herself up. She just sat straight up. From lying flat on her back, she just sat straight up. How could she do that? And what did she mean, she loved you this much? How much is this much?” he rambled.

I ignored his questions and walked over to the window. Vernon followed. We stood at the window and looked at the small dimming light. “That light wasn’t there before.” I said. I had no more than spoken the words when the light disappeared in the fog. “What do you care about a light?” Vernon demanded. “Shouldn’t we call the nurse or something?”

Two months later, it was my turn to stay the weekend with grandma. I did not know grandma had asked mom to call my cousin Carol and tell her she needed to see her that weekend. Although Carol and I had been very close throughout our childhood, we had been estranged for over 17 years since I found her in bed with my husband. I was shocked and somewhat dismayed when Carol arrived that Saturday evening.

But, my grandmother was a very wise woman. Although she was too ill to speak more than a few words at a time, she asked for Carol and me to come to her bedside. She looked up at us, gave us a weak smile and said, “It is time you two had a talk,” and closed her eyes and went to sleep for the night.  I went outside and a while later Carol joined me. We ended up talking through the night, healing the hurt between us. The next day grandma requested an old fashioned Sunday dinner. Despite my doubts that she would be able to even eat one bite, Carol and I worked together making a big fried chicken dinner with all the trimmings. To our surprise, grandma did indeed eat a good sized plate. She was strong enough to even sit up and share in our memories of our childhood days. We laughed and we cried. It was like old times. Carol left that evening after grandma fell asleep. We promised to call and to get together soon. We didn’t realize how soon that would be.

I left the next morning when mom arrived. I had a business meeting in Columbus and would be gone for a few days. I gave mom the phone number of the hotel where I would be staying. I was in an afternoon seminar when I received a note to call home. Grandma had died without ever waking since Carol and I sat at her feet reminiscing the day before. I was stunned. I cried the entire two hour drive home. I could not believe my grandma, my rock, my savior was gone.

Two days later, calling hours were held. I was surprised to see so many people I didn’t know. All of grandma’s relatives and friends came, but there were also many strangers, at least strangers to grandma’s immediate family. One man who looked to be about 30 came up and introduced himself. It seems he met my grandmother ten years earlier during the darkest days of his life. He had been kicked out of his parent’s home in Cincinnati after refusing to get a job after he graduated high school. He admitted he was deeply into drugs at that time and even stole from his parents to buy drugs. After he was booted, he hitchhiked to Holmes County to sponge off his aunt. She had put up with him for several months, then finally had to throw him out because of his stealing. He had been sleeping under a bridge for several days and not eaten for as many days when he happened to walk past my grandma’s house. Grandma was sitting on the front porch and quickly offered a friendly, “Hello. This sure is a beautiful day isn’t it?” That greeting led to a conversation with a glass of iced tea and then a sandwich. Steve told grandma his situation, complete with all the bad things he had done. He also admitted he had decided to end his life that afternoon as he had no one to turn to. “That’s not true.” Grandma assured him. “Have you tried talking to God?” The afternoon turned into evening. Grandma offered him a place stay that evening along with a hot meal and a hot bath. She gave him an old pair of pajamas to wear while she washed his clothes. They stayed up most of the night talking and grandma led him to the Lord. The next day she gave him money for bus fare to go home along with the words, “Go home and apologize to your parents. Tell them you are ready to be a man of God. I know they love you and they will forgive you.”

Steve said he went home and grandma was right. His parents welcomed him with open hearts and helped him get through college. He said he had stopped by grandma’s several years earlier to pay back the  money she gave him, but she refused the money and said he should use it to help someone in need. He was now a dentist and devoted a large portion of his practice to providing free dental care to those who could not afford it otherwise. His aunt had seen grandma’s obituary and called him. He knew he had to come to say good-bye to the woman who had saved his life by leading him to God. “Your grandmother was a remarkable woman. I tried to tell her my parents would never forgive me because I had done such bad things to them. She said they loved me enough to forgive me.”

As Steve left the funeral home, I remembered Vernon saying, “And what did she mean, she loved you this much? How much is this much?” The next day, we made the funeral procession to the Upper Paw Paw cemetery outside of Marietta. During the drive, I thought about the night in the hospital Vernon and I watched grandma sit up in bed. I thought about the small dim light that went out like a candle in the mist of the fog. I remembered grandma’s words, “I love you this much Cricket.”  

I waited outside the little one-room country church as long as I could before the final service was to begin. Part of me wanted to go right in to be with grandma before they carried her coffin to the gravesite. But another part held back, like I was afraid that something bad was going to happen. My dad finally took hold of my arm and said it was time, we had to go in. I walked in and sat down on an old wooden pew. The minister began the service. He talked about the love grandma had for anyone she met. He shared her love for the Lord. Then it was time for my two sisters and I to sing grandma’s favorite hymn, “The Old Rugged Cross.” I originally declined to sing as I knew I did not have a good singing voice, but mom would not take no for an answer. As we walked up and stood by grandma’s coffin, I peace came over me. Although tears rolled down my face, my voice was strong and even sang on tune. We sat back down and the minister began to pray and everyone bowed there heads.  He gave an invitation for anyone who did not know Jesus to raise their hand and ask Jesus to come into their life. He went on to say he saw many tears today. For some, they were tears of sadness because they would not being seeing grandma in the flesh but if they knew Jesus, they would be seeing her in Heaven. For those who did not know Jesus, then the tears were of sadness because they would never see grandma again. Then he said the words that would forever change my life, “Grandma Martha has the love for God in her heart. She loves all of you so much, she would do anything to see you all again.”

In an instant, it all made sense. The night at the hospital when she sat up in bed, she thought it was her time to go home to be with God. I will never forget the look on her face when she saw God, and I know she did indeed see God that night. But he wasn’t there to take her home. He had another job for her to do before her time was done. There may have been more, but I do know I was one of the jobs grandma needed to complete before she went home. My heart had been hardened from all the abuse I endured throughout my life. My estrangement from Carol added an even thicker layer. Carol and I had shared so much and her betrayal created an impenetrable crust. The light I had seen that night was not for grandma, but for me. It was a light of hope shining through the fog of the earthly horrors I had known. God wanted grandma to help me find my way through that fog. He knew she was the one who I loved the most and the one who could gather all the seeds that He had planted together and bring me to Him.

I slowly raised my hand and asked Jesus to come into my heart. The service ended and everyone was given a final opportunity to say goodbye. I stood at grandma’s casket and remembered all the years of her love. I placed my hand on hers and told she could go home to be with the Lord as I had a new Savior. And, I would be seeing her in Heaven.

Elvis has left the Building

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This week I want to share a “most unforgetable” moment in my life, the day I met Elvis Presley. Unfortunately, all of the pictures in this post are from Google images. The pictures my husband, at the time, took are in his possession. Although I have asked several times for copies, he refuses to give me even one. But, that’s ok, I still have my memories.

 

 

 

Elvis has left the building

 

I grew up in a country music household. By age 10, I knew all of Pasty Cline’s and Loretta Lynn’s songs from playing them over and over on our record player. I was also moved by Johnny Cash and Johnny Horton. But my very favorite was Elvis Presley. My parents were not overly fond of Elvis because he also sang “that rock and roll” music, which my mother was convinced came straight from the Devil himself. But he sang very inspirational Gospel hymns and therefore a few of his albums made it into our family collection.

 

elvis-portrait1smI would sit for hours listening to Elvis and studying his pictures on the record albums. Even as a child, I was mesmerized by his haunting eyes. As I grew into adolescence, I became fascinated with his jet black hair and curling lips. My first crush was on a boy who looked like Elvis, at least through the eyes of a twelve-year old. Even my first kiss came while listening to Elvis sing “Are You Lonesome Tonight.” If I were not in love with Elvis enough, his movies only compounded my love affair. “Love Me Tender” and “Flaming Star” are my favorites of the 31 movies he made. Yes, I have seen them all, probably more than thirty times each. I was contented living in a country and western household, that is, until the Beatles came to America.

 

I was in the seventh grade when the Beatles stepped onto American soil. I had won a transistor radio at my dad’s company picnic the summer before and had freedom to listen to my own choice of music. The first time I heard “I Want to Hold Your Hand,” I was hooked. I became an overnight Beatlemanic. I collected bubblegum cards, key chains, posters, anything with the Beatles on it. My parents became concerned over my obsession with a group they never heard of. “You spend too much time listening to that noise!” they complained. The final straw came the night the Beatles were to appear on the Ed Sullivan Show. I spent the entire week prior trying to convince my dad that we really didn’t need to watch Bonanza. But all my pleading and reasoning fell on deaf ears. The weekly family tradition of watching Bonanza on Sunday night at 8pm while sharing a half gallon of vanilla ice cream would not be changed for anything, much less for a program featuring a rock and roll group. The night finally arrived and my resolve not to be the only girl in junior high to miss seeing the Beatles on beatlestelevision only became more intensified. At every commercial, I asked if I could turn the channel just in case they were on. NO, was always the answer. Finally Bonanza was over and I literally I got down on my knees in front of my dad and begged to be able to turn the channel. “But we will miss the previews for next week’s show if you turn it now.” he responded. “But dad, we are going to see the show next week anyways, it’s not going to hurt anything to miss the previews. The Beatles might still be on. Please dad! Please let me turn the channel.” I begged. He finally agreed and I was across the room like a shot and had the channel changed before he even finished, “I suppose we don’t have to watch the preview.” Just I turned it to the correct channel, Ed Sullivan was introducing the Beatles’ second act for the night. I had not missed them! There they were, singing “I Saw Her Standing There” followed by “I Want to Hold Your Hand.”  I never saw their entire presentation of I Want to Hold Your Hand. I, like every other teenage girl in her living room across the country, was jumping up and down, screaming and crying. My dad was too shocked at first, but finally gained his senses, and got up, walked over in front of me, and then turned the television off. “If this is what this kind of music does to you, you will not listen to it ever again!” I had never defied my dad before, so this was going to be a problem. I quickly learned to schedule my rock and roll listening around times when my dad would be within hearing distance. I quickly cast country music aside, along with my love for Elvis, and fell in love with Paul McCartney and John Lennon. This new love lasted several years until I moved to Memphis.

 

I married at age 16, due to an unplanned pregnancy. Seven months after our marriage, and death of our first child, my husband and I moved to Memphis, Tennessee. John worked for a lumber company who paid our expenses for five months for him to attend the National Hardwood Lumber Inspection School. This proved to be quite an adventure for two kids from the rural hills of Holmes County, Ohio. We rented a duplex from Mrs. Goolsby, who lived next door. On the second day of our arrival in Memphis, John left for school. Being as I was only 17, I had nothing to do but sit around the apartment. Mrs. Goolsby invited me over for tea that afternoon. That’s when I saw it. An autographed 8×10 framed picture of Elvis and Mrs. Goolsby. I asked if I could pick up the picture and was told, “Well sure honey, it just a picture of me and Elvis.”

 

“Just” a picture, I thought as I ran my fingers over his face. “Oh, that’s right,” she began, “you folks being from the north probably don’t know Elvis.”

 

“I know who he is, but I don’t know him. You mean you know Elvis, like really know him.” I asked.

 

She laughed and said, “Well yes I do. He hasn’t been around in a while, probably been a year now. But he stops by when he gets the chance.”

 

“Stops by? Here? In this room?!?” I stammered.

 

“Well sure honey. Why wouldn’t he? I’ve known Elvis since he was a little tike. I used babysit him when Gladys, that’s his mamma, had a lot of sewing to do. Course, we all lived in Mississippi then. The Mister (her husband) and Vernon, that’s Elvis’ papa, worked on the WPA. That Roosevelt sure did a good thing there . . .” she continued to ramble on but I couldn’t get past the fact that she actually knew Elvis. That Elvis had actually sat in her living room, maybe even in the same chair I was sitting.

 

“So, you like Elvis’s music do you?” she asked. I responded I used to listen to his records all the time. “I noticed you folks don’t have a record player. If you want, you can borrow this little one and some of his records while you’re here. And if you want to see Elvis, all you got to do is go over to Graceland and wait outside the gate. If Elvis is home, they come down and let whoever is waiting in.”

 

“What? You mean I could actually get to meet Elvis.” I asked, hardly believing what she was saying. “Well sure honey. Now Elvis ain’t one of those uppity famous stars. He knows who butters his bread and he tries to see as many of his fans as he possibly can. You can even take pictures if you want.”

 

Mrs. Goolsby wrote down the directions to Graceland and said the best time to go was between 2pm and 5pm. I carried the little record player and five of Elvis’ records back to our apartment, along with her directions and my resolve that I was going to meet Elvis if I had to go down to Graceland everyday while we lived in Memphis. And I did – drive over elvis3to Graceland every afternoon for four and a half months. I would stand and talk with other fans from all over the world who hoped for a glimpse of Elvis. I ended up getting a great tan, but no sight of Elvis. That is, until June 15, 1969.

 

My parents, along with my younger sister and brother, and my Uncle Jim and Aunt Vivian came to visit. They brought along the top layer of our wedding cake which they had in their freezer. Mom was very superstitious and said it was bad luck if John and I didn’t share the top of our wedding cake on our first year anniversary, which was June 22. We just laughed at their excuse, as everyone knew the real reason for their visit was to make sure we would be coming back home in four weeks when John’s school was over. I had written several letters saying how much I liked the warm weather, and dad was worried we might decide to stay. We assured them we would definitely being coming home and spent two days showing the group around Memphis. A stop at Graceland was on the itinerary.

 

We arrived at Graceland shortly after lunch. I was happy to see there was only a small group of people, which meant we could go right up to the gate. I explained how I made a daily pilgrimage to Graceland in hopes I would get to meet Elvis. Everyone laughed and said I should be happy with taking a picture in front of the gate. We had just arrived at the gate, when a man appeared on the other side. To our astonishment, he unlocked the gate and told us to walk up to where chairs had been placed for us to sit. “Elvis will be out when he is finished with his karate lesson.” he announced and then locked the gate. There were only 14 of us in total, with eight being our group. My sister began to cry about the prospect of meeting Elvis. My parents and my aunt and uncle were so shocked they said nothing. My brother and my husband got the cameras ready. I was so nervous, I could not sit down, but stood starring at the mansion in front of us. We were going to meet Elvis. We waited for seemed an eternity, but was actually only about a half an hour. Then, as if he was just an ordinary person, Elvis walked out. Of course he had two very large muscular men standing on either side of him.

 

“Hello everyone.” He said. No one moved. No one said a word. There was not a mad dash to see who would get to him first. Everyone was stunned. I could not believe how beautiful he was. He still had on his white karate jacket and pants. The jacket was trimmed in red silk and held elvis4closed by a black cotton belt. He had several large rings on his fingers. A yellow towel was draped around his neck and I noticed perspiration stains under his arms. His black hair sparkled like diamonds in the sunlight. He was the most beautiful man I have ever seen.

 

“Hello,” he said again laughing. “Don’t be shy. Tell me where you folks are from.” Then everyone started talking at once. Elvis spent more than an hour with us that afternoon. He talked with everyone individually and allowed us take all the pictures we wanted. My mom had just purchased a Polaroid camera with four rolls of film for their trip. My brother snapped picture after picture, 32 in all, laying each one on a chair to finish developing. John had a regular camera and snapped all 12 pictures of Elvis.

 

I was one of the last to talk with Elvis. I had waited every afternoon all those months, and now that he was finally within a few feet of me, I was awestruck. My wait was not in vain however. Elvis looked over at me while talking with my aunt. Our eyes met and my knees went weak. He started walking towards me and I thought I was going to faint. “Well now, aren’t you a pretty little girl.” he said as he took my hand. “I can’t believe I am talking to you.” I stammered. “I have come here everyday for months and months, and now, here you are.” He laughed and his white teeth shone. “What’s your name?” he asked. “Cricket, well actually it is Evelyn, but my family calls me Cricket.” He laughed again, “Well, I like Cricket. Have you watched Hawaiian Eye?” I nodded yes. “Connie Stevens played a singer named Cricket. I always thought the name didn’t suite her. She is blonde. I always pictured the name Cricket should be for a girl with dark brown hair. Of course, I kind of favor brunettes.” he said smiling as he touched my hair with his other hand. He had never let go of my hand. As he held my hand, my fingers fumbled with the ring on his finger. I do not think I have ever been so nervous in my entire life. Then he moved on to the next person. A few minutes later he said good-bye to the group and walked back into his mansion.

 

We all walked down to the gate and were escorted out. My brother was already at the gate when we arrived. A few hours later we learned he had taken all the Polaroid pictures of Elvis he had shot down to the gate and sold them for $10.00 each to people standing outside the gate. My mom was livid but my dad laughed and said he made enough to extend their vacation to include a stop in Nashville. They left the next morning.

 

I have always thought Mrs. Goolsby made a call to Elvis when we left that day for our sightseeing trip. She knew Graceland was going to be our first stop. Although I asked her several times, she never accepted credit for my, and my family’s, chance to meet Elvis. It is a day I will never forget.elvis-presleyElvis was the most beautiful man I have ever met.

I cried several years later when he left the building for the last time.

3X Thursday

I came across another meme today, 3X Thursday. It is short and easy so I thought I would have a try. Just 3 questions to answer, how simple is that?

1. Do you have a job? If so, what do you do? I am currently on a lay off.

2. If you don’t have a job, is it related to this crappy economy? What’s next for you? I worked for a metal fabrication plant. I am a human resource manager, a position which is typically the last to go if a company shuts down. However, my boss’s wife did my job before me, so I was let go to help save expenses. So much for job security.

3. Do you see any upsides to quitting a job or being laid off? If so, what are they? If not, why not? I have actually enjoyed my time off. I spent the summer painting my house and about 400 feet of picket fence. I like having free time and not having to do a daily grind.

Because of You

Selma in the City has a new blog for your writing enjoyment. Search Engine Stories  uses genuine search engine terms as writing prompts. The rules are simple. Write a fiction, non-fiction, or poetic piece based on the prompt. This week’s prompt is “Because of You”.  

 

 

For many years I blamed you for the losses in my life. The loss of our children having the security of a family. The loss of our home we remodeled with blood, sweat, and tears. The loss of our marriage and growing old together. Because of you, we were forced to travel a new road in our lives. In spite of you, we have survived and we are strong.